|Michelle - empowering labour and unplanned caesarean after 2 previous caesareans|
“For our first 2 pregnancies we went to the standard hospital classes and assumed like many do, that we would be given all the necessary information to enable us to have a successful vaginal birth. Both of these births ended in unplanned caesareans. We wanted to get it right this time by learning as much as we could about childbirth and how to avoid another unnecessary caesarean.
After my 2 previous births, I felt I had failed and my body just couldn't do it. We would like 4 children and I really didn't want to give in to the doctors and have what they called "elective caesars" for my next 2 (which didn't feel very elective to me).
My husband and I decided to attended Birthtalk when we fell pregnant again. We accidently arrived on the ‘wrong’ week and ended up in the "Healing from Birth" session which we didn't think we needed. Wow, was I wrong. I hadn't realised I had felt so bad about my first birthing experience. It was good for me to realise these feelings, to hear others stories and to have my feelings validated. It was also good to know that there is a place and people you can turn to, who listen and understand as opposed to the hospital who really didn't get it.
When I was labouring with my 3rd pregnancy we were a lot better equipped to ask questions from the information we learnt at Birthtalk. I felt a lot more confident and strong talking to the doctors this time around.
Having Deb as our Doula was great!!! We built a a really strong trust with her which really helped Steph and I feel strong and empowered in the hospital. We had a really long labour (which I loved every minute of). Our doula helped make our birthing suite more suitable for birthing (reducing the lights, putting the bed on the floor, rearranging the furniture, getting my oil burner ready etc) She also helped ask questions and talk things over with us. It was also really great because we had learnt so much from our classes that we knew what questions to ask and could explain clearly to the midwifes and nurses what we wanted and why.
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